No, I am not fourteen, nor am I a whore!

There are so many people who seem to allow themselves to believe that speaking candidly in every situation is always the best way to handle things. I am someone who respects a person’s honesty and also their fearlessness to discuss what may be on their mind, but I do not understand when strangers assume something about you, and proceed to be convinced that they know the truth even when they are given the truth by the source.

I admit that I do look kind of young, I am 25 years old but could surely return to high school as an undercover reporter for a sequel to Never Been kissed, without anyone being suspicious. There have even been multiple occasions where someone has asked me what junior high I go to. Now, there are so many factors that go against this idea that I am so young, I am married (although going through a divorce, very adult I might add) I have a toddler, a bachelor’s degree, four years of legal drinking under my belt, a car, a mortgage, even an occasional grey hair that I pluck out of my scalp. These factors are all obvious to people who have spoken to me, and since I have always been considered mature for my age, a simple conversation usually wipes away any belief that I am younger.

Now back to the weird strangers. I do have a toddler, and I am seven months pregnant and I have recently come across two women who were disgusted with this fact. Both women were at least 65, and both had nasty scowls that were just evil and obnoxious enough to warrant a beat down. Woman number one, “What are you going to tell your children when they asked who their daddy is? aren’t you going to be embarrassed to tell your children that you were just a child when you had a child?” My response..”What?” when in reality it was a totally WTF moment. At first I thought she knew my ex, and was aware of what a douche he is, but then I realized she meant that I wasn’t even aware of who the father was. The next woman followed up that delightful encounter with, “She isn’t trying to be mean, but the lord does not think it is okay for a child like yourself to have children, you are supposed to be married.” This occurred at our community center, it gave me serious doubts to whether I wanted to continue going to this community center, or in public in general.

This occurence is just the latest of laughably rude people who have thought that I was a young unwed mother, a cheerleader in trouble if you would. I should be happy I look so young but I sure find it irritating dealing with idiots who just assume things.

On a similar topic, I am getting a divorce, and any time I let someone know this fact, they ask me who the father of my unborn child is. Well sorry to disappoint, but I am actually pregnant with my estranged husband’s baby. No, I am not a whore, my ex is just someone I could not and would not mend things with just because he is my baby’s daddy.

So for those of you who are ever in the same boat with people judging you before knowing a single thing about you, just remember; you can assume things about them as well, and perhaps you may assume that they will get eaten by a giant velocaraptor.

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